Codependent should recognize that not only they but also their loved ones, are going through difficult times.Being a good listener and asking questions regarding the codependent’s thoughts and feelings, combined with an open acknowledgement of the codependent’s significant role they play in everyone’s life, and that codependency is the problem, not the codependent.Even when the codependent offers no resistance to professional help, the loyalty and support of loved ones plays an irreplaceable and invaluable role.The experience of speaking with an expert, in the presence of the codependent, can make things easier for everyone.For the codependent, support means having someone who understands what is being discussed, and what is happening to them.And, knowing that an expert is providing loved ones with neutral information that dispels misconceptions and prejudices.As noted above, each of these messages is a stumbling block to recovery.Loved ones, already familiar with the problem and the symptoms, will recognize them if they reappear.Although relapse is discouraging, it is important not to give up, and seek professional help as soon as possible.Taking that first step towards treatment is always difficult, be it parents or children, husband or wife, or friend.We must understand that psychological difficulties are not a measure of a person’s strengths or weaknesses.The person is still the same person, except now, they have a problem.The codependent will soon come to stabilization and/or recovery, with love, support, care, and the freedom to communicate their problems.So the basic message is simple.Be as supportive as possible, and learn to cope with this condition.Take no actions that may activate the triggers you’ve read about here, and convince your loved one to begin therapy.Do these things, and have unlimited patience with your loved one.Remember that your loved one is a victim.Now, I know that you might not believe that, but unfortunately, that is the truth.The codependent person is difficult for you in many respects, but you still love that person.The codependent is dealing with enormous levels of guilt, shame, and depression.The effect of a traumatic experience looms large inside that person.You can salvage your loved one only if you are willing to overcome your own ego and dismiss the past.Be supportive, and be compassionate.Do not be judgmental, because that will only backfire.If you can’t accept your loved one and forgive their transgressions, you will lose that person forever.Don’t make that mistake again.Suppress any anger and resentment you may feel, and do the right thing.If you can do that, the person you love will heal, and both of you will have a whole new life.We’ll talk about you again.This is also very important.Until now, you didn’t know why your watch wasn’t ticking.Now you know a great deal.Now you know what it is.It’s time to be brave.Time to realize that even though you are alone in this fight, you are not without the support of others.When I told you this was your fight I meant you were the one who has to stake the initiative and demonstrate the will to overcome this condition.As for the people around you, it’s best to be open and honest, about your problem.Just as you have to be honest with yourself, so you have to be honest with others.We’ve already said that running away from reality is a dead end.It’s the same with running away from the truth.Honesty is the best medicine.There is a saying that, the worst truth is always better than the most beautiful lie.It’s time to explain your condition to your family.They, just like you, live in the dark when it comes to your behavior.They tried to understand you but couldn’t.Now it’s time to explain to them what is going on, so that your family can finally know what is important regarding your condition.The famous meme that all happy families look like each other has already been written by one of the greatest writers, but a hundred years later, it remains the absolute truth.They say that everything comes from family.Family can be your greatest strength, as well as your greatest weakness.Certainly, there are times when our loved ones drive us crazy, but when times are tough, you always come home.Many families have been together for decades.What makes a family the happiest is the absence of conflict, closeness, mutual understanding, respect, shared activities, and the support of loved ones.When a family has all of that, then difficulties become nothing more than small bumps in the road.Most modern families have a strong social network, which includes immediate and extended family members as well as friends.Most believe that they can rely on this social network when they need support.This is consistent with large international studies, which indicate that families in transitional societies are vital, and that the family network provides emotional, social and economic assistance to its members.In developed Scandinavian countries with high levels of wealth, material goods and social support from the state, there has been a decline in close family relationships.Research indicates that strong social networks which are closely related to close relationships and emotional exchange, are stronger in transitional societies.It is the family that understands you best.The support you need for your recovery will be found in your family, but only if you are honest with yourself and with your family.If they choose not to support you, so be it.That will only make you stronger and you will manage to overcome your condition regardless.Your soul mate, needs to know everything there is to know.You must be completely honest with your loved one and you must tell them everything there is to know.I want to be clear about this.You need to be responsible and completely honest.You must bare yourself to the bone.